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About howhardcoulditbe

While this started as a chronicle of my many (sometimes ill-conceived) "Do It Yourself" projects, it has morphed into a journal of my 9-year journey as a single Christian woman striving to live by God's design.

Peeing in the Pool

I have never been one to pee in a swimming pool.  I don’t want to swim in someone else’s urine, so I won’t increase the odds of them swimming in mine.  Recently, I’ve gotten an uncomfortable feeling in one of my … Continue reading

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The Man Church

Military, guns, boxing and bacon: these are common themes at the church I’ve heard many women refer to as “The Man Church.”  Many ladies are getting frustrated.  I, on the other hand, think it’s awesome.  The next time you’re in … Continue reading

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Modesty Sells

Marketing is everywhere.  Before my daughters could read well, I’d point at signs as we drove through town and ask what they were selling at that store.  A giant burger in the fast food window, an inflatable milkshake on the … Continue reading

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Chasing Crows

Heresy.  That’s a powerful word that’s been used to shut down religious opposition for centuries. Lately some Christian leaders have been saying that heresy is the greatest threat to the church we face today.  I’ve seen loving Christians become so wrapped … Continue reading

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Judgement and Repentance

An amazing thing happened to me today.  I was given the opportunity to apologize to someone I wronged long ago.  Part of what made it amazing was that it happened at a church service about how “church people” lose sight … Continue reading

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Loving Someone Who Can’t Love You Back

My first marriage was rough.  Not to bash my ex-husband, but he had specific mental diagnoses that made him miserable.  This caused him to concoct crazy ideas about my intentions. He would then come up with defensive plays to thwart … Continue reading

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Why I Support Singles Ministry and You Should, Too

Church as most of us know it isn’t much like it was 100 years ago.  Medium-sized churches which used to dominate America are now drying up. Tiny start-up churches and mega-churches have taken over. I hear people whine about this … Continue reading

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